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Susceptibility to Hearing

Susceptibility to Hearing | The Abilities

In order to truly understand one another you have to be susceptible to speaking – and to listening. Remember, communication is a two-way street.

Especially, you have to be susceptible to hearing – actually hearing. Not just using your ears to hear frequencies, but actually understanding and comprehending what is being communicated.

So many people don’t listen. They think they listen, but many times, people have a hard time relating to others because they don’t receive the information that is being communicated.

See, speaking is simple, because you know and understand yourself. It is very easy to say something or speak to how you feel. It is where most people operate – on their one-way street.

However, listening is much more challenging for the majority of people. What is ironic is that the communicator forgets about the communicated to. Sometimes people just talk without understanding what they say or how they say it impacts others.

Furthermore, the majority of people forget to open up their ears and hearts to the other party. Sometimes it is due to perception, sometimes it is distraction. Either way, it is an intrinsic problem with our society today. People don’t understand others.

I invite you and challenge you to take the time to sit down with another person and investigate THEIR situation. Hear, listen, understand, explore, and try to have sympathy and empathy for the other person. Really listen. Yes, your world is important, but opening your perspective to another can open up a lot of doors. There is a lot of value in the space between.


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Being Genuine

Being Genuine | The Abilities

Knowing your authentic self is the first step to understanding who you are and what makes you fulfilled. You are unique, and you are special. There is no one else in the world like you.

You should understand your heart so well that all of your decisions and actions flow from your best interest and highest good, at all times.

A lot of people get into challenging predicaments because they aren’t true to themselves. They go along with something that doesn’t align with their energy and greatest power. They compromise or sacrifice who they are under certain circumstances because they are not being genuine.

Being genuine is truly looking inside and understanding your power within.


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Isolation’s Cause

Isolation's Cause | The Abilities

Stop living a life of isolation when you reach your fears. It’s not healthy. You’d actually be surprised with how many people have been through what you’ve been through. Your sins and struggles are very real, but so are so many others’. Everyone needs help in some point in their life to get through their hardships.

It is our human nature to coexist with others. People need to feel as though they are connected to others. People that become ashamed, isolate themselves. They prevent others from getting to know who they really are and put up a wall of fake realities to try to make it appear as though everything is okay. Well nobody promised you the rose garden didn’t have thorns. It is not all perfect. Accept that and stop living a lie.

We can’t stop the beast, but what we can do, is stop hiding. Everyone has something going on in his or her life. Everyone has a story to tell.

So much more pain just comes with hiding your sin, rather than facing it boldly, being honest to yourself and others, and overcoming your withholdings. See, sin can beget sin. Sin also can paradoxically create blessings if people can overcome the sin. It is very easy to get caught up in a downward spiral of sin and negativity. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let go of your pride, turn the other cheek and choose to be positive.

However most people fear vulnerability – because if people really knew who they were, they wouldn’t be accepted.

Well that may be true is some cases, but what is important is finding the people in your life that you can lean into and trust. Find the people that can be a sounding board and lend a hand when you need it and not turn back around and use it against you (and vice versa).

Therefore, you need to be real with yourself and others. You need to be able to protect yourself and do your best to protect others as well. Treat people as you wish to be treated. This is the Golden Rule. If everyone could stick to that, the world would be a better place. However, people are different, people don’t always have a common purpose and people have different timelines. Working together can be a blessing and a curse. Either way, we have to stop living a lie.


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Don’t play God.

Don't Play God | The Abilities

While success is great and wonderful, people don’t want to know how high and mighty you are. Don’t play God. You don’t know everything and you cannot see the future – and you shouldn’t act as though you do. People who boast about their success don’t achieve much with others – unless the boasting is used to help others. I.e. There is no gain from bragging about how great you are to folks who aren’t benefiting from your fruits. In fact, it turns people away from you because they assume you are arrogant. It is much better to approach success from a standpoint of gratitude, teaching, and serving. In other words, acknowledge the ones who helped you get there, and use your success to add value to others.

Let your light shine through your blessings, not your own self-aggrandizement. People can make up their own mind about your character without having you tell them who you think you are.

Instead, people prefer to know your struggles. They want to relate to you by understand your troubles, because they too have troubles. Everyone is dealing with an array of issues that they are trying to overcome. Speak to your challenges you had to conquer to achieve success and not about how your powerful actions led to success.

Success comes in many different shapes and sizes, and it isn’t always easily achieved. No matter how successful you are, success isn’t permanent, and neither is failure. While you go through the ups and downs of the success and failure cycle, keep your humbleness.


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Passing Joy

Passing Joy | The Abilities

Smile, and make people smile. That is the most important thing you can do. Just smile. A smile connotes happiness and joy. It is good and lightens the weight of the world. It creates positivity and peace.

Do you know someone in your life that needs to just smile? Someone who is knows the struggles of life too well. Someone with a lot going on and their reality seems to be dim. What can you do to brighten their lives? How can you pass joy to them to make them feel good?

It could be something as simple as a smile.


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What is Your Testimony?

What is Your Testimony | The Abilities

It’s time to show off your abilities and let your story be told! Submit your testimony today to

What is your story? Who are you and what have you been through? What are you currently experiencing? Have you overcome a huge challenge to get to an extraordinary place in life? Do you want to show others how much value your products or services can bring to their lives?

If you believe you have a story to tell that will add value to a great audience, then reach our to You can submit your testimony to be featured in this next book or be featured on a blog.


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Nature and Nurture

Nature vs. Nurture | The Abilities

Do you ever catch yourself thinking how similar you are to your parent or your colleagues? Do you ever stop to ask yourself why you are in the position you are in, reflect on who you are, or embrace where you have been?

You are a truly unique person with experiences unlike anyone else. Your makeup is complex, and you should know yourself well by now.

But who are you really, and why do you do what you do?

Nature and nurture is an age old debate explaining why people behave the way they do, whether it was what they were taught while growing up, or whether it is their natural ability.

While this debate is meaningful and well known, there is another variable in the debate. What if you are who you are because of your aspirations, your visions, and dreams? What if you are who you are because you spread your wings and created a new reality?

I call this nature, nurture, and “not me”. See, just because you were raised in an environment, or you are currently in a situation, that doesn’t mean you can’t choose, create, and change into who you want to be.

Think of yourself as an eagle. Eagles have a gift of vision. They have an advantage over other predators because they can see further. They can also soar higher than any other bird because of their wings. They spread their own wings and go where they want to go.
Truly majestic animals.

I defy you to defy gravity, and spread your own wings.


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Spread Your Wings

Spread your wings | The Abilities

What a magical moment – That moment when a baby bird finds its wings – The moment when freefalling turns to soaring – The moment when you experience that element of support in
your natural environment.

This is required to be able to explore. This is required to live your life to its
intended purpose.

See, the wings of the nurturer can only provide the necessities of life for so long. There will come a time when it is required of you to fly and find what you need.


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Now On-Demand: The Doug Dahlgren Show

J Reese Lasley on The Doug Dahlgren Show | The Abilities

My interview with Doug Dahlgren is now available to stream on-demand via MP3 – launch the recording below or Stream on Now. We had a great time and talked about some important human characteristics that The Abilities can help; and are applicable to everyone. I’m so grateful for the time with Doug, The Doug Dahlgren Show and the ArtistFirst radio network. Remember to post your comments and feedback.