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Being Genuine

Being Genuine | The Abilities

Knowing your authentic self is the first step to understanding who you are and what makes you fulfilled. You are unique, and you are special. There is no one else in the world like you.

You should understand your heart so well that all of your decisions and actions flow from your best interest and highest good, at all times.

A lot of people get into challenging predicaments because they aren’t true to themselves. They go along with something that doesn’t align with their energy and greatest power. They compromise or sacrifice who they are under certain circumstances because they are not being genuine.

Being genuine is truly looking inside and understanding your power within.


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Isolation’s Cause

Isolation's Cause | The Abilities

Stop living a life of isolation when you reach your fears. It’s not healthy. You’d actually be surprised with how many people have been through what you’ve been through. Your sins and struggles are very real, but so are so many others’. Everyone needs help in some point in their life to get through their hardships.

It is our human nature to coexist with others. People need to feel as though they are connected to others. People that become ashamed, isolate themselves. They prevent others from getting to know who they really are and put up a wall of fake realities to try to make it appear as though everything is okay. Well nobody promised you the rose garden didn’t have thorns. It is not all perfect. Accept that and stop living a lie.

We can’t stop the beast, but what we can do, is stop hiding. Everyone has something going on in his or her life. Everyone has a story to tell.

So much more pain just comes with hiding your sin, rather than facing it boldly, being honest to yourself and others, and overcoming your withholdings. See, sin can beget sin. Sin also can paradoxically create blessings if people can overcome the sin. It is very easy to get caught up in a downward spiral of sin and negativity. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let go of your pride, turn the other cheek and choose to be positive.

However most people fear vulnerability – because if people really knew who they were, they wouldn’t be accepted.

Well that may be true is some cases, but what is important is finding the people in your life that you can lean into and trust. Find the people that can be a sounding board and lend a hand when you need it and not turn back around and use it against you (and vice versa).

Therefore, you need to be real with yourself and others. You need to be able to protect yourself and do your best to protect others as well. Treat people as you wish to be treated. This is the Golden Rule. If everyone could stick to that, the world would be a better place. However, people are different, people don’t always have a common purpose and people have different timelines. Working together can be a blessing and a curse. Either way, we have to stop living a lie.


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Don’t play God.

Don't Play God | The Abilities

While success is great and wonderful, people don’t want to know how high and mighty you are. Don’t play God. You don’t know everything and you cannot see the future – and you shouldn’t act as though you do. People who boast about their success don’t achieve much with others – unless the boasting is used to help others. I.e. There is no gain from bragging about how great you are to folks who aren’t benefiting from your fruits. In fact, it turns people away from you because they assume you are arrogant. It is much better to approach success from a standpoint of gratitude, teaching, and serving. In other words, acknowledge the ones who helped you get there, and use your success to add value to others.

Let your light shine through your blessings, not your own self-aggrandizement. People can make up their own mind about your character without having you tell them who you think you are.

Instead, people prefer to know your struggles. They want to relate to you by understand your troubles, because they too have troubles. Everyone is dealing with an array of issues that they are trying to overcome. Speak to your challenges you had to conquer to achieve success and not about how your powerful actions led to success.

Success comes in many different shapes and sizes, and it isn’t always easily achieved. No matter how successful you are, success isn’t permanent, and neither is failure. While you go through the ups and downs of the success and failure cycle, keep your humbleness.


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Passing Joy

Passing Joy | The Abilities

Smile, and make people smile. That is the most important thing you can do. Just smile. A smile connotes happiness and joy. It is good and lightens the weight of the world. It creates positivity and peace.

Do you know someone in your life that needs to just smile? Someone who is knows the struggles of life too well. Someone with a lot going on and their reality seems to be dim. What can you do to brighten their lives? How can you pass joy to them to make them feel good?

It could be something as simple as a smile.


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Nature and Nurture

Nature vs. Nurture | The Abilities

Do you ever catch yourself thinking how similar you are to your parent or your colleagues? Do you ever stop to ask yourself why you are in the position you are in, reflect on who you are, or embrace where you have been?

You are a truly unique person with experiences unlike anyone else. Your makeup is complex, and you should know yourself well by now.

But who are you really, and why do you do what you do?

Nature and nurture is an age old debate explaining why people behave the way they do, whether it was what they were taught while growing up, or whether it is their natural ability.

While this debate is meaningful and well known, there is another variable in the debate. What if you are who you are because of your aspirations, your visions, and dreams? What if you are who you are because you spread your wings and created a new reality?

I call this nature, nurture, and “not me”. See, just because you were raised in an environment, or you are currently in a situation, that doesn’t mean you can’t choose, create, and change into who you want to be.

Think of yourself as an eagle. Eagles have a gift of vision. They have an advantage over other predators because they can see further. They can also soar higher than any other bird because of their wings. They spread their own wings and go where they want to go.
Truly majestic animals.

I defy you to defy gravity, and spread your own wings.


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Spread Your Wings

Spread your wings | The Abilities

What a magical moment – That moment when a baby bird finds its wings – The moment when freefalling turns to soaring – The moment when you experience that element of support in
your natural environment.

This is required to be able to explore. This is required to live your life to its
intended purpose.

See, the wings of the nurturer can only provide the necessities of life for so long. There will come a time when it is required of you to fly and find what you need.


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Unlock Your True Power

True Power | The Abilities
Unlock Your True Power | The Abilities

We all have our own version of living on the edge of adventure – saving the world from the ticking bomb of destruction – preventing the evils of the world from attacking our loved ones – revolutionizing humanity as we know it.

Sometimes our powers lay dormant under the mask of monotony, ego, self esteem, pride, current situations, mediocre thinking, or even just our day to day lives. So many people have the ability to add value onto the world, to live the life of impact, and create greatness.

But sometimes we just get stuck. Sometimes we need an awaking.

Well what if you could unlock your true power? What if you could tap into the superpowers you know you have? What does that actually take to reach your full potential and make a difference? Is it being challenged? Is it creating goals? Is it maintaining the high purpose? What is it that drives you to take action?

You need to investigate how to create that fire to your incredibly powerful potential. You know your talents, but how do you unleash them? You know your dreams, your passions, and your gifts. Tap into them, take heart, and try.


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The Difference Between Grace and Mercy

Grace or Mercy | The Abilities

Grace or Mercy | The AbilitiesGrace and mercy are two of the greatest gifts from God. For clarification, they are two very different things and important to distinguish. The difference between grace and mercy is that grace is the gift of freedom from the penalty of which we don’t deserve, and mercy is forgiveness from what we do deserve. For example, grace is not punishing a baby for crying, mercy is not punishing a man who chose to commit murder. Grace involves unconscious and unpreventable naivety, mercy involves conscious willing intent or conscious reluctant action through weakness.

Grace: Grace is not deserved. It is also not earned. Grace is a gift. It is an extension of patience and trust through our imperfect human nature.

Mercy: Mercy is the sparing of the harm or punishment one deserves for sin. Similar to grace, it is not earned, however, it is deserved. It is the moment one is given another chance even though everything points to guilt.


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Communication | The Abilities, J Reese Lasley

Communication | The Abilities, J Reese LasleyCommunication is the most important word in our known language. The ability to communicate is imperative. If we cannot communicate, we cannot exist. All living creatures have their own filters by which they interact. This can make communicating a blessing, or a curse. We must attune into our own and other’s senses, and use them to the best or our abilities to communicate effectually.

Our human consciousness of touch, taste, feelings, sight, hearing, thinking, smelling, and doing are the means to a purposeful life. These are all traits, learned and/or instinctual, which are essential to relationships, leadership, and your effectiveness. It is noteworthy here, that everyone is different and sees the world separately.

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YOU hold the abilities to achieve success

You Hold the Abilities - J Reese Lasley


There are many definitions, insights and interpretations of success; People place different perceptions on what they believe success means. E.g. money, quality time, happiness, helping others, a good job, roles, family, heaven, health, a big house, a nice car, friends, etc.

Success, in its fundamental construal, is simple. It is really just getting what you want.

The problem is, is that many people don’t really know what they want, and if people do know what they want, they don’t know why they want it, how to get it, or even believe that they can have it.
This book defines the abilities to help you get what you want, from desire to legacy.